Churches Urged to Rethink Inclusion for Autistic Individuals, Families

Dr. Melody Escobar, a leading practical theologian, calls on churches across the United States to confront a troubling reality: families of children with disabilities, particularly autism, leaving congregations at alarming rates due to a lack of genuine inclusion.

Speaking during NTS Nurturing Care’s Day of Learning, Dr. Escobar highlighted that one in 31 children in the U.S. is diagnosed with autism. However, half of families affected by disability eventually leave their church because they feel unwelcome.  “This isn’t a marginal issue,” Escobar said, emphasizing that millions of families are searching for communities where they can belong, worship, and participate fully. 

A Theology Rooted in Care

Drawing from both historical theology and contemporary lived experience, Escobar outlined a vision of inclusion grounded in what she describes as “nurturing care.” Central to her argument is the work of Julian of Norwich, a 14th-century Christian mystic who described God not only as a fatherly figure, but as a nurturing mother—one who offers unconditional, tender, and ever-present love. 

Julian’s writings, Escobar noted, depict a God who “wraps and enfolds” humanity in love and never abandons those who suffer. “That vision challenges how we practice ministry,” Escobar said. “If God meets people where they are, so must we.”

Lessons from Caregivers

Escobar’s research also draws on a two-year ethnographic study of mothers raising children with disabilities. Their experiences revealed three defining characteristics of caregiving love:

Caregivers described their role as both deeply meaningful and physically demanding, underscoring the need for stronger community support systems.

Love as work: A daily, often exhausting commitment requiring immense physical and emotional effort. Described as “love on steroids,” this is a daily choice requiring immense effort and personal cost, often involving years of sleeplessness and physical toll. It underscores the hidden value of caregiving and the crucial need for community support for caregivers.

Love as transformative: A force that reshapes families, careers, and personal identity. This love reshapes every aspect of life, influencing careers, deepening marriages, and cultivating profound humility and compassion. It fosters a unique appreciation for authentic love found in children with disabilities.

Love as inclusive: A form of love that extends outward, fostering compassion and community beyond the household. This love extends beyond the family unit, inspiring caregivers to offer unconditional, Christ-like love to everyone, becoming “hoarders of people.” It also highlights caregivers’ concerns about sustained physical demands and the need for respite.

A Personal Story of Barriers and Breakthrough

Escobar also shared her own family’s experience raising her son, Rafi, who is autistic and deeply devoted to church life. Despite his enthusiasm, multiple parishes initially declined to include him in preparation for First Communion, citing a lack of resources. The turning point came when one teacher simply said yes. “That willingness to try changed everything,” Escobar said, describing how adapted materials, patient instruction, and a supportive church community ultimately made participation possible.  She called this openness “the gift of yes,” a commitment to learn, adapt, and walk alongside families.

Escobar urged churches to move beyond statements of inclusion and adopt concrete changes in practice. Among her recommendations:

  • Rethink ministry structures to ensure accessibility and participation
  • View autism through a theological lens, recognizing it as part of human diversity, not deficiency
  • Affirm the image of God in every individual, regardless of ability 

She also emphasized the importance of building authentic relationships including sharing meals, listening to families, and fostering genuine friendships rather than mere tolerance.

Committed Learning

Escobar’s presentations invited small group interaction both by in person participants but also online engagement. The hybrid event drew journalists, consultants, and local churches, already participating with Nurturing Care’s initiative. In addition, providing a Zoom Events option allowed more than 70 participants to join from around the country, while the total 120 registrants can access video recordings of the presentation for the next month. Future editions of the presentations will be available through NTS lifelong learning program, Praxis, as part of the Nurturing Care video series.

Director Dean G. Blevins noted the educational event, and congregations empowered through mini-grants to minister to autistic kids through worship and prayer practices, occurred through a grant from the Lilly Endowment, Inc. The event reflects a growing awareness for greater engagement alongside children with disabilities and their parents.

Escobar designed discussion questions that lead from theological reflection to practical strategies for addressing children with autism through worship and prayer exercises. Escobar and others also acknowledged a growing need to offer respite care for parents of children, alongside accepting autistic kids in the local congregation during worship and discipleship opportunities.

Toward Belonging

Ultimately, Escobar argued that inclusion benefits not only individuals with disabilities, but entire faith communities. “Barriers to belonging are not fixed,” she said. “They can be named, and they can be removed.”  Her message is both a challenge and an invitation: for churches to embody a form of care that reflects divine love—adaptable, inclusive, and unwavering.

“True welcome,” she concluded, “means no one is ever left outside.”

Final Invitation

Nurturing Care continues to empower congregations to nurture experiences of God among elementary age children with autism, through worship and prayer practices. To learn more about the programs “Maker’s Space” incubators/retreats. Blevins will offer two information sessions on April 27th. Congregations interested in joining churches in the midwest and southeast making a difference with autistic kids, can register for this important event.

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Dr. Melody Escobar Opens Day of Learning

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An Active Discussion Session

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Children Find Peace, Purpose Through “Gratitude in Action” at Spring Break Day Camp

What began as a simple idea—teaching children to pause, reflect, and pray—came to life in a powerful way during this year’s Spring Break Day Camp at Sandia Valley Church of the Nazarene. Built on the guiding principle “Gratitude is our new attitude,” the camp integrated a unique blend of emotional care, prayerful spiritual reflection, and community engagement, offering children not just activities, but a safe space to be heard and supported. 

At the heart of the initiative was a thoughtfully designed “Nurturing Space,” created in partnership with God’s Place (also known as God’s Palace by many of the children). This designated area allowed children to step away from the group when emotions became overwhelming—an approach rooted in the program’s broader emphasis on emotional coaching and moral integration.

Leaders reported feeling confident guiding children to the space when needed, where trained volunteers, including Danielle Rivas, engaged them in meaningful conversations. Through gentle questions centered on gratitude and prayer, children were encouraged to reflect on what mattered most in their lives and what they wished to share with God. The impact was immediate and profound.

“One child who had been running away from his group found peace and solace in the space,” a camp leader shared, describing a moment that underscored the program’s purpose: meeting children where they are emotionally and spiritually.

Another cornerstone of the camp was the interactive Gratitude Wall, a central feature of the broader ministry initiative. Designed as a “wall of words” reflecting faith and thankfulness, it invited children to share heartfelt expressions of gratitude—often transcribed by volunteers to preserve their voices. 

The messages revealed a deep sense of connection and appreciation. Children expressed gratitude for their families, their church, and their community. One particularly moving statement read: “I’m grateful and thankful for you, Danielle, and that I was able to take a break.”

According to program leaders, these moments reflect the deeper goals of the initiative: fostering a culture where gratitude and prayer become natural, daily practices—not just activities confined to church settings. The Spring Break Day Camp is part of a larger, year-round effort that includes leadership training in emotional coaching, family prayer journals, and ongoing engagement with the Gratitude and Prayer Wall. The initiative aims to strengthen both individual faith and community bonds, particularly among children ages 5–12 and their families.

For many involved, the most meaningful outcome was not just participation, but transformation.

“We were thankful for the opportunity to have this nurturing space,” one organizer reflected. “It allowed others to see the power of prayer and nurturing care in real time.”

As the program continues to grow, leaders hope its model—combining emotional awareness with spiritual guidance—can serve as a blueprint for other ministries seeking to support children holistically. In a week designed as a “break,” many children found something deeper: calm, connection, and a new language for gratitude

West Coast Churches interested in creating their own opportunities to create caring practices of prayer and worship can register for the next Nurturing Care Maker’s Space to be held at Point Loma Nazarene University May 28-30. Up to two members per church. Check out our invitation, then register while positions are available.

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Spelling Spiritual Family Celebration

An update from Stephanie Answer

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Trust expressed among Native American Children

It was another meaningful and spiritually enriching time with the children representing four churches in the Southwest Native American District’s Eastern Zone. The focus of the gathering was on trust.

As the leader spoke about trust, the children engaged in a related art project, helping them connect the message with a hands-on activity. Three adult leaders guided different segments of the program:

  1. One leader read a scripture passage about Abraham’s trust in God when he was called to leave his homeland, with the children following along in their Beginner’s Bible.
  2. Another leader led the children in singing “Jesus Loves Me.”
  3. The third leader facilitated the writing of gratitude cards.

After returning to the main meeting, both the children and leaders were invited to present a report. This included the scripture reading, a time of worship, and the presentation of the gratitude cards.

Additionally, ten churches received an 8×10 canvas, along with instructions encouraging them to invite their children to spend intentional time with God. The plan to display these canvases in each church’s children’s department was also shared.

To learn more about the virtue of trust and its impact on the church, the PLNU Center for Pastoral Leadership hosted a webinar with Dr. Ross Oakes Mueller titled Cultivating Trust. Dr. Mueller serves as a consultant for Nurturing Care, which will host a Maker’s Space Retreat May 28-30, 2006. Enjoy the video.

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West Coast Nurturing Care Initiative Shows Grassroots Innovation and Spiritual Impact Across Congregations

A series of monthly reports and ministry updates from churches participating in the West Coast Nurturing Care cohort reveal a growing movement reshaping how children engage with faith—through creativity, service, and intentional space-making. Across California, Oregon, and beyond, congregations are experimenting with hands-on prototypes that prioritize children’s spiritual agency, with early results pointing to both emotional depth and community transformation.

At Bend Church of the Nazarene, a bilingual worship initiative continues gaining traction as leaders work to produce children’s worship music in English and Spanish. While technical challenges—particularly translating rhythm-heavy songs—have delayed full bilingual album production, progress continues. Leaders are now developing accompanying motion-based videos featuring teens from both English- and Spanish-speaking services, reinforcing cultural inclusion. The project has already yielded meaningful impact: one bilingual child expressed joy at finally being able to worship in Spanish alongside peers, underscoring the importance of representation in spiritual formation  .

The Bend initiative also highlights how grant funding is nurturing young talent. A college-aged videographer, raised in the church, is gaining paid, real-world experience while discerning a call to media ministry—an example of how the program is investing not only in children but in emerging leaders  .

In Hesperia, the continued “GratiGrow” project is demonstrating the power of service-based formation. Despite low attendance due to holiday conflicts, children and volunteers came together to clean the yard of a pastor facing serious health challenges. Leaders reported that children’s enthusiasm inspired adults to stay longer and engage more deeply, reversing traditional expectations of who leads in acts of compassion. The effort culminated in emotional moments of gratitude from the recipient family, with participants describing the experience as both joyful and transformative  .

That impact extended beyond the event itself. A personal letter from the family (included in project materials) expresses heartfelt thanks for the children’s work, noting they were “blown away” by the willingness and capability of the young volunteers and even contributing financially to support youth ministry efforts in return  .

Meanwhile, at Sandia Nazarene, a simple but intentional space called “God’s Place” is redefining how children participate in worship. Designed as a prayer and reflection area, the space allows children to draw, write, or pray during services. In one instance, a child spontaneously asked to pray for her grandmother and later wrote her a note—an experience that deeply moved her family, who saw it as an answer to prayer during a difficult season. Leaders report that the space has become a meaningful alternative to traditional expectations of stillness during worship, enabling children to actively connect with God rather than disengage.

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Other congregations are exploring similar innovations. A “prayground” experiment at Pittsburg Church integrates play into intergenerational worship. Children engage with tactile elements—such as recreating biblical scenes or interacting with a toy communion set—while adults are invited to join them. In one striking moment, a four-year-old, after mimicking communion, told another participant, “Now you’re Jesus,” revealing a profound, experiential understanding of sacramental theology without formal instruction. Pastor Christy Dickt noted “This child has not had any formal teaching outside of Sunday worship about communion. He has just participated in the Eucharist every week for the last 2 years. However, he knows  something happens when I drink from this cup that makes me more like Jesus. The grace of God being received by a child each week!”

In Sonoma Valley, children participating in a gratitude exercise demonstrated empathy beyond their years. One child wrote a note of encouragement for a blind man in a recovery program, asking that it be read aloud to him—an act that reflects the program’s emphasis on outward-facing compassion  .

Across the cohort, collaboration and shared learning are key themes. Salinas New Life reported one their ongoing experimentation with worship flags. Tim King noted that one six year old child as adopted a trusting posture to the point she ran across the front of the congregation leading the church in worship by using her flag.

While deeply involved in sensory-friendly spaces, and trauma-informed practices, leaders are also rethinking language—moving away from terms like “timeout” toward more restorative concepts such as “regulation spaces”—as they design environments that support children emotionally and spiritually. Other congregations, like Christ Community Church in San Ramon, continue to re-vision their ministry, developing a contemplative vision of gratitude around a “sit spot” or nature setting. As pastor Cielo Perez reports, in a Christian context practice transforms a simple nature observation into a spiritual discipline for virtue formation. It aligns with the biblical call to “be still and know” (Psalm 46:10) and the practice of witnessing God’s character through His creation (Romans 1:20).

While challenges remain—ranging from volunteer shortages to production delays—the overall trajectory is one of innovation rooted in lived experience. These ministries are not merely teaching children about faith; they are creating conditions in which children actively practice it—through prayer, worship, service, creativity, and leadership.

Registration continues for May Maker’s Space in San Diego (Point Loma Campus)
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/nurturing-care-plnu-makers-space-retreat-tickets-1982828733117?aff=erelexpmlt. Churches may apply through the registration process that ends May 15, 2026. Churches are then invited to attend the May 28-30 event on campus where Nurturing Care covers expenses during the event. West coast churches can email info@nurturingcare.org for more informations but please review the FAQs on the Eventbrite page as well.

As the initiative moves toward its final reporting phase in June, early evidence suggests that these grassroots experiments are doing more than engaging children. They are reshaping congregational life itself, inviting adults to rediscover faith through the eyes—and actions—of the youngest among them.

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