Churches Build Momentum for Neurodiverse Inclusion Through Nurturing Care Initiative

Church leaders from across several Nazarene congregations in the Southeast and Midwest gathered for a monthly Nurturing Care project check-in, sharing stories of progress, growing support, and the challenges of creating more welcoming spaces for neurodivergent and sensory-seeking children and families.

The collaborative initiative, supported through prototype grants and coaching, is helping churches reimagine children’s ministry through sensory-friendly worship spaces, prayer initiatives, accessibility improvements, and family-centered programming. While many teams described themselves as still being in the “early stages,” participants reported encouraging responses from parents and congregants eager for more inclusive church environments.

“We’re learning this project is about relationships first,” one participant reflected during the meeting, echoing a theme repeatedly emphasized by project leaders Dana Preusch and Dean Blevins. Rather than rushing to complete every element of their prototypes, teams were encouraged to focus on listening, experimentation, and gradual cultural change.

The meeting opened with personal conversation and reflection on “starting new endeavors,” drawing from Isaiah 43 and John 10. Participants shared summer plans, family updates, and milestones—including one team member celebrating the adoption of a baby girl after 14 years of foster care ministry.

Churches Begin Turning Vision Into Practice

Several congregations described tangible steps already underway.

At Hermitage Church of the Nazarene, Melissa Holder said staff members have responded enthusiastically to plans for sensory stations and worship kits designed for an upcoming multi-generational “Family Worship” service. The church also plans to reduce noise levels and create a more sensory-friendly atmosphere. “The church staff is very excited to see all of this in action,” Holder wrote in the church’s monthly report.

Lovejoy Family Church has shifted from plans for a single sensory room to creating two dedicated sensory spaces within children’s classrooms. Shasta Robbins reported strong support from church leadership and volunteers. “All workers are really excited to get started this summer,” the report stated.

Nicole Byler with Oxford Nazarene Church is exploring one of the project’s largest proposed changes: fencing its playground to create a safer fellowship environment for children and families. After conversations with parents, church leaders realized the need was more urgent than originally anticipated. The church is also rearranging classrooms, adding sensory materials, and creating a prayer-focused wall for children.  

Meanwhile, Pine Hill Church of the Nazarene has begun remodeling its children’s wing and preparing “Sprout Boxes,” sensory support kits intended to help children engage more comfortably in worship and programming. Pastor Zoe Weatherspoon reported that new families have already expressed excitement about the initiative.

Balancing Excitement With Resistance

Although the overall tone of the meeting was hopeful, several leaders acknowledged the growing pains involved in implementing change within established congregational cultures.

Ruthanna and Kat at Wannamaker Woods shared that while families have responded positively to sensory bags and accessibility efforts, some older congregants have offered criticism or skepticism about the accommodations. One particularly meaningful moment came through a conversation with an 18-year-old with fetal alcohol syndrome who expressed a desire simply to feel welcomed and accepted at church.

Other teams described logistical challenges, including determining where sensory materials should be stored, how to prepare volunteers adequately, and how to communicate their ministries publicly without overpromising capabilities they are still developing.  

That conversation led to broader discussion about messaging. Leaders encouraged churches to consider eventually using simple phrases such as “sensory friendly” or visible accessibility logos once systems and volunteer training are more established internally.

Prayer Initiatives Reveal Deeper Needs

Jennifer and Kayla from Hope ConneXtion shared updates from a children’s prayer initiative that has unexpectedly surfaced serious family and emotional concerns among participating students. Rather than submitting superficial requests, children have been praying for classmates dealing with surgeries, mental health struggles, and difficult home situations.

One story drew laughter and affirmation from the group: during a Bible study discussion, a child confidently answered a question by declaring, “Jesus is always the answer.” The pair also described a Mother’s Day prayer led by a child during worship that received especially positive feedback from congregants, reinforcing the importance of giving children visible spiritual leadership opportunities.

Summer Seen as Key Opportunity

With schools ending and summer ministry schedules beginning, many churches identified the coming months as a critical season for implementation.

Plans discussed during the meeting included:

  • creating “kid kits” and sensory totes for family worship services,
  • installing accessibility furniture and sensory corners,
  • building prayer walls and interactive worship stations,
  • redesigning children’s classrooms for flexibility and sensory support,
  • and forming new creative teams after graduating volunteers move on.

Project leaders also encouraged churches to continue documenting “God sightings,” congregational stories, and humorous moments as the initiative evolves. Letty with Las Palmas church noted similar needs with other Spanish language congregations on her district offering additional opportunities in the future.

Despite differing timelines and resources, participants repeatedly emphasized a shared conviction: churches can become more welcoming places for neurodivergent children and families when inclusion is approached intentionally, patiently, and relationally.

As one team summarized through its monthly report, churches are still “just now starting” many of these projects—but families are already expressing hope for “all the things to come.”

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One Step at a Time and Sacred Spaces

Articles by Claire McClun, one of our grantees working with neurodivergent children.

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Faith Communities Urged to Move Beyond Programs to Foster True Belonging

Faith leaders are being called to rethink how churches welcome individuals with autism and their families, shifting from program-based support to relationship-driven inclusion. In Nurturing Care’s Day of Learning second session, titled “Faithful Partners in Belonging,” Dr. Melody Escobar highlighted that nearly half of families with a child with a disability have left churches—often multiple times—due to a lack of acceptance and meaningful connection.  

The session emphasized that true belonging goes far beyond physical presence, outlining ten key dimensions of belonging that define inclusive communities, including being known, needed, and loved. Dr. Escobar stressed that individuals with disabilities should not be viewed through labels or limitations, but as people with unique gifts and contributions. “A key sign of belonging,” the session noted, “is being missed when absent,” underscoring the importance of genuine relationships over surface-level inclusion.  

Escobar also challenged common misconceptions, including the belief that specialized programs are the primary solution. Instead, she argued that relationships—not programs—are the foundation of inclusion, and that churches do not need expert-level training to begin this work. “The same love, patience, and welcome already present in congregations can be extended intentionally,” Escobar concluded, reframing inclusion as both accessible and essential.  

To help congregations take action, Escobar outlined practical strategies such as creating sensory-friendly worship spaces, establishing support groups for parents, offering respite care, and appointing inclusion advocates to guide efforts. Ultimately, the message was clear: fostering belonging is a shared responsibility that strengthens entire communities. By prioritizing relationships and adapting ministry to meet diverse needs, churches can become places where every individual is not only welcomed—but truly known and valued.  

Videos are now available on NTS Praxis Studio. Nazarene Theological Seminary’s Center for Life Long Learning.

Escobar’s presentations highlight the work of congregations willing to take initial steps to foster belonging, much like the prototypes initiated by churches in Nurturing Care’s Maker’s Space project. Congregations across the midwest and southeast identify one prototype that allows them explore, build, and learn how to reach autistic kids through worship and/or prayer practices. To learn more about this unique program join Dr. Blevins for an Information Session April 27th either at noon CT or 7:00 pm CT by registering online.

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Faith Communities Welcoming Disability: Bill Tammeus Reports on Melody Escobar

Former Kansas City Religion Reporter Bill Tammeus attended the Nurturing Care Day of Learning with Melody Escobar. Tammeus, also a columnist and book reviewer with the National Catholic Press and The Presbyterian Outlook, contributes to the KC online magazine Flatland News, and KC Star Faith Matters. He offers a synopsis of the gathering as his wife also reviews Escobar’s book.

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Churches Urged to Rethink Inclusion for Autistic Individuals, Families

Dr. Melody Escobar, a leading practical theologian, calls on churches across the United States to confront a troubling reality: families of children with disabilities, particularly autism, leaving congregations at alarming rates due to a lack of genuine inclusion.

Speaking during NTS Nurturing Care’s Day of Learning, Dr. Escobar highlighted that one in 31 children in the U.S. is diagnosed with autism. However, half of families affected by disability eventually leave their church because they feel unwelcome.  “This isn’t a marginal issue,” Escobar said, emphasizing that millions of families are searching for communities where they can belong, worship, and participate fully. 

A Theology Rooted in Care

Drawing from both historical theology and contemporary lived experience, Escobar outlined a vision of inclusion grounded in what she describes as “nurturing care.” Central to her argument is the work of Julian of Norwich, a 14th-century Christian mystic who described God not only as a fatherly figure, but as a nurturing mother—one who offers unconditional, tender, and ever-present love. 

Julian’s writings, Escobar noted, depict a God who “wraps and enfolds” humanity in love and never abandons those who suffer. “That vision challenges how we practice ministry,” Escobar said. “If God meets people where they are, so must we.”

Lessons from Caregivers

Escobar’s research also draws on a two-year ethnographic study of mothers raising children with disabilities. Their experiences revealed three defining characteristics of caregiving love:

Caregivers described their role as both deeply meaningful and physically demanding, underscoring the need for stronger community support systems.

Love as work: A daily, often exhausting commitment requiring immense physical and emotional effort. Described as “love on steroids,” this is a daily choice requiring immense effort and personal cost, often involving years of sleeplessness and physical toll. It underscores the hidden value of caregiving and the crucial need for community support for caregivers.

Love as transformative: A force that reshapes families, careers, and personal identity. This love reshapes every aspect of life, influencing careers, deepening marriages, and cultivating profound humility and compassion. It fosters a unique appreciation for authentic love found in children with disabilities.

Love as inclusive: A form of love that extends outward, fostering compassion and community beyond the household. This love extends beyond the family unit, inspiring caregivers to offer unconditional, Christ-like love to everyone, becoming “hoarders of people.” It also highlights caregivers’ concerns about sustained physical demands and the need for respite.

A Personal Story of Barriers and Breakthrough

Escobar also shared her own family’s experience raising her son, “Raffy,” who is autistic and deeply devoted to church life. Despite his enthusiasm, multiple parishes initially declined to include him in preparation for First Communion, citing a lack of resources. The turning point came when one teacher simply said yes. “That willingness to try changed everything,” Escobar said, describing how adapted materials, patient instruction, and a supportive church community ultimately made participation possible.  She called this openness “the gift of yes,” a commitment to learn, adapt, and walk alongside families.

Escobar urged churches to move beyond statements of inclusion and adopt concrete changes in practice. Among her recommendations:

  • Rethink ministry structures to ensure accessibility and participation
  • View autism through a theological lens, recognizing it as part of human diversity, not deficiency
  • Affirm the image of God in every individual, regardless of ability 

She also emphasized the importance of building authentic relationships including sharing meals, listening to families, and fostering genuine friendships rather than mere tolerance.

Committed Learning

Escobar’s presentations invited small group interaction both by in person participants but also online engagement. The hybrid event drew journalists, consultants, and local churches, already participating with Nurturing Care’s initiative. In addition, providing a Zoom Events option allowed more than 70 participants to join from around the country, while the total 120 registrants can access video recordings of the presentation for the next month. Future editions of the presentations will be available through NTS lifelong learning program, Praxis, as part of the Nurturing Care video series.

Director Dean G. Blevins noted the educational event, and congregations empowered through mini-grants to minister to autistic kids through worship and prayer practices, occurred through a grant from the Lilly Endowment, Inc. The event reflects a growing awareness for greater engagement alongside children with disabilities and their parents.

Escobar designed discussion questions that lead from theological reflection to practical strategies for addressing children with autism through worship and prayer exercises. Escobar and others also acknowledged a growing need to offer respite care for parents of children, alongside accepting autistic kids in the local congregation during worship and discipleship opportunities.

Toward Belonging

Ultimately, Escobar argued that inclusion benefits not only individuals with disabilities, but entire faith communities. “Barriers to belonging are not fixed,” she said. “They can be named, and they can be removed.”  Her message is both a challenge and an invitation: for churches to embody a form of care that reflects divine love—adaptable, inclusive, and unwavering.

“True welcome,” she concluded, “means no one is ever left outside.”

Final Invitation

Nurturing Care continues to empower congregations to nurture experiences of God among elementary age children with autism, through worship and prayer practices. To learn more about the programs “Maker’s Space” incubators/retreats. Blevins will offer two information sessions on April 27th. Congregations interested in joining churches in the midwest and southeast making a difference with autistic kids, can register for this important event.

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An Active Discussion Session

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Dr. Melody Escobar Opens Day of Learning

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